I’m getting better!
Maybe it doesn’t seem like it if you read my previous post, but I’m definitely doing better! I can honestly say now that I really don’t care what Soldier and Lenore do together. And I don’t care what happens to them afterwards. But I DO care about (ex)Daughter and Son. I DO care what will happen to them. But unfortunately most of that is out of my hands. On Friday we will go to the notary’s office. We’ll see then if Lenore really plays it by the ethic rules…
The last few days my thoughts have shifted. Before I was pondering what would happen. Now, these thoughts have been replaced by “what will I do WHEN things happen?”
I no longer think about whether or not I can keep the house. Now, I have started to think as follows:
Either I keep the house or we sell it. It all depends on how much our house is worth now. Lenore wants half of the added value of the house, which is her legal right. If the house increased in value by over 60.000 euros (that would be an increase of 66% but we bought it cheap!), I will have to sell. If I sell it, I will search a nice little appartment somewhere interesting. And I get a huge amount of money too (+30.000 euros). Not bad from an investing point of view. I wonder how many banks can offer such interests. New life, new place, lotsa cash…
If I can keep the house, as I prefer, I can go to the bank for the cash I need to pay Lenore and then my new life can start. It won’t be easy since I will have to pay more mortgage but I think it would be manageable. I have already started thinking about what I want to change in the house, where to put new furniture, where to go for new furniture. I have decided that if I can keep the house, I will take a week off from work, and I will cleanup the veranda. I still have an old set of seats and couches at my parents place. No doubt I can have those back and create a nice and cosy place extra in the house. The veranda was a storage place up to now. Secondly, I’m thinking of finally starting to modify our smallest attic and making a library/reading room of it. I think I can do these things without spending huge amounts of money so these things are quite feasable I guess.
But I’m not doing anything in the house for now as long as Lenore has not left. I will not mow the lawn, I will not fix anything that’s broken… First of all I do not feel like it at the moment. And also, I think it is not very wise to start fixing everything so the value of the house goes up, and I will need to pay Lenore more.
Lenore needsd the money because she is supposed to buy part of the house of Soldier. To me that idea is strange. If I meet someone in the future that I want to spend the rest of my life with, she will not have to pay rent or buy part of my house! I think it to be logically that she wouldn’t have to pay anything for living with me. Ofcourse I would expect her to contribute to the family, groceries or whatever. But for the house? Nope. Well ,but what those two do, that’s up to them. I feel like I should make a betting game on how long they will stay together. I give ‘em two years MAX.
But yes, I do start to feel better, and I do look forward to the future. Things will change in the house (if I can keep it) of that I am sure. Not everything will change since I do like it the way it is setup now, but some details will change. Like I said: an extra cabinet here, a library there, extra couches in the veranda, a drawing above the old fireplace, more spiritual things…
In fact: I can hardly wait to get started reorganising everything!
Yesterday I even proposed to help searching a new place to stay for Soldier’s wife! So Soldier and Lenore can go and live together ASAP.
LOL… I wonder what kind of message that gave Lenore…
I think I will be over it sooner than they expect!
